What makes a bad parent? Let's not go with the obvious choices let's go deeper and think harder for just a few seconds and see what we come up with. I have not seen my daughter in about 8 years and at first glance everyone would say I am a bad parent. A statistic a number that can be tracked and collated and distilled to banality. Yet that is not the whole story of the situation. Many people can say oh well do something about it but because I can't does that make me a bad parent?
Lets look at the other side of the story; her mother. The "good" parent, maybe. The parent that cares for her in person has full custody and yet hides from me and my family. This is the parent that demanded she have our child the majority of the week. Fought to keep me a "weekend" parent even though I arranged my schedule with my job at the time so that I could have more time with my daughter. The "good" parent conspired with her family to essentially kidnap our child. And yet her mom is still the "best" parent.
I am under the impression that for any one to be considered a good parent the guy has to pay out of the nose and the woman has very little accountability. I am automatically the bad parent even though my home had everything my daughter could want or need. I spent time with her and taught her what she needed for the time. She had manners and knew how to wash her hands before eating and how to wipe them when she got messy. Yep being a bad parent was such a tiresome thing. I don't know about anyone else but I think that from my point of view being the bad parent may not have been so bad at all. The next time you run into the "bad" parent look beneath the surface and see if there something deeper.
Things are certainly not always as they appear. Your a wonderful parent becuase you continue to care and continue to want that relationship with your daughter. Your a good parent to your daughter because of your heart and a good parent to, though not by blood "our" son.. as you recently stated.
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